Welcome back to another week, and another post. Before I get started on this one, I wanted to invite y’all to follow me on all my social media accounts, and to join my facebook group The Positivity Huddle. I want to wholeheartedly begin creating an online community for Miss Tae Lo followers to talk and share and I would love if you joined:)
Now that I’m done self-promoting, lets get down to the tofu of this week’s post (I would say meat, but I’m a vegan, so tofu it is).
I’ve been working as a front desk/leasing person at an apartment complex for the last few months part-time; you know, doing the regular kinds of front desk attendant stuff like answering phone calls and handing out packages. It was a good job (for the most part) and it was definitely a position most people my age would be happy to have.
Not only was it a safe position, but I also got along with all my coworkers and we generally had a decent time while working. It wasn’t overly strenuous or difficult, it was just right for basically any college student out there.
So, you must be asking, why did I quit and why am I writing a post about why I quit?
This is a valid question, since clearly there are wayyyy worst jobs out there than this one. I’m sure to a lot of you, this one may even seem cushy and nice. And I’m not saying it wasn’t; but there are some definite reasons as to why I left that I wanted to share with y’all today.
The first and most obvious reason that I chose to leave was because I have a very heavy course load this semester which includes a German language class, so the hours didn’t work for me anymore. This semester I definitely need to focus almost all of my attention on homework and studying like the typical over-stressed college senior. A girl’s gotta pass with a decent GPA so she can get a job after her final semester next fall (yikes!).
But the second reason that I decided to quit my job was because of this.
No, not exactly this blog in particular (even though it does fit in to what I’m talking about), but creativity. I realized that for all the career and life plans that I have laid out for myself, working for that job wasn’t going to get me any where. Yes, it meant that I had some form of financial security and I didn’t have to worry about having $5 in my bank account anymore, but the more I got to thinking about it, the more I knew that that wasn’t enough for me to stay.
I’m sure some you think that this makes me crazy. Financial security is such a big part of life in the modern world, giving it up for such a thing as “creativity” seems almost idiotic. It seems even more idiotic once you think about how hard it is to get a job in college. I get that, I really do. For a long time, I believed that trying to succeed at what I loved in life would never bear any fruit.
I mean come on, we’ve all heard that to work outside of the 9-5 average joe job is a fool’s errand. Ever since we were little kids, we were told that dreams were just dreams unless you were born for greatness. It’s like you either had the sheer, brilliant talent to achieve your dream, or you should just give up because that dream will succeed for only the select few. Why we think this way as a culture, I have no idea. If you really sit on it for more than a minute, you realize that this is such a negative and disappointing lesson to teach kids. It’s like when you tell your parents you want to be an astronaut when you grow up, and they give you that look, and say maybe you should think about the medical field. If something is outside of the norm or too “risky”, people seem to think that it is impossible.
I don’t know about you, but this is not how I want to live the rest of my life. I don’t want to wake up one day when I’m still trying to retire at 70 after working a desk job my whole adult life and think “wow, if I would’ve just tried to live my dream, maybe my life would be different”. That vision to me is just so sad; maybe to some others it isn’t, but being the creative that I am I just don’t think that I would be living my purpose if I resolved myself to that future. I want to live a life full of possibility, not one of compromises.
And although I believe that you can start living your dream life at any point during it (as in age shouldn’t matter when it comes to finding your happiness) I think that for me I have to start right now when I’m young. Not because I think that you can’t create and manifest a life you love at any age, but because starting now gives me so much time to get there. And it gives me a little bit of year-cushion when it comes to making mistakes and start up planning. I’m still in college, so I have two more semesters to really get going before I have to jump into “the real world”, so I don’t want to wait.
The thing about dreams is that, yes, some people are born with that innate trait or talent that let’s them be whatever it is that they want to be. But that doesn’t mean the rest of us are out for the count. Dreams take some serious work. They’re just like anything in life; if you really want it, then you are going to have to bust your butt and start making some difficult decisions. Nothing is ever just going to lay down in your lap; you’re going to really have to put some effort into getting what you want.
People equate “effort” to “impossible” a lot of the time. Let’s be real: people naturally go for the easiest and safest route to be comfortable. No one wants to go down the hardest path if they can choose the easy one that may not make them exceptionally joyful, but at least they’d do alright. They have a roof over their head and enough dough left over for some takeout or drinks on the weekend and that’s just good enough for them.
And for a lot of people, that’s how things are. But I don’t want that for me, and I don’t want that for you, either.
Each of us has such great potential to do so much in our lives; each with an individual purpose that is born from our unique existence. To not accept the gift that that is to live a comfortable, stable life would be a disgrace to all the things that you could be and to the wonderful life that you could live.
Sometimes, like me, the first step is to leave the things that are no longer serving your greater purpose, or don’t set your soul on fire to be alive. Sometimes you have to take a step back from certainty and run around like a chicken with their head cut off (thanks dad for that phrase, btw) before you come up with a plan for how you’re gonna do this thing, whatever that thing is for you.
For me, I jumped from a stable job to freelancing as a writer, editor, social media marketer, etc. while also trying to grow and work on this blog which I love. My soul said that this is what I should be using my time on this Earth for, and I wasn’t going to argue with that anymore because I was afraid of what might happen. I believe that my purpose was given to me, along with my personality and gifts, for a reason and I don’t want to grow old regretting never acting on those gifts. Maybe I’ll make a difference, maybe I won’t, but at least I’ll know that I lived the best life for me, no matter what it turns out to be. I don’t want to ignore what I’m called to do just because once upon a time someone told me that it would be impossible. I’m going to put all I have into it and live that dream I’ve always had.
Don’t let your inclination to stay inside your stable little box keep you from living to your ultimate potential. Don’t stand in the way of your own happiness. Embrace the things you love and find a way to make that love a part of your life. It isn’t impossible, it just takes a little nerve.
Over and Out,